Friday favorites: A six year old gives great advice on how not to be scared

Bianca Giaever was just about to graduate with a degree in narrative studies (how cool does that sound?) and was a little nervous about what would happen next. She was creating a short film and asked six-year-old Asa what the film should be about. He told her a story about a bear and a mouse that ends up having a much deeper meaning. The miniature Aesop tells Bianca to think about the things she likes until “the nervous has gone out of you” – because the scared feeling is scared of all the things you like.

If you’re feeling scared or nervous, I think this video will help chase those feelings away – at least for about eight minutes. (You may have to refresh this post a couple of times in order to see the video player.)

the Scared is scared from Bianca Giaever on Vimeo. (I originally found this video on

I love Asa’s advice. For me, the last several months have been magical. A long-awaited baby on the way and my first book coming out in August..what more joy could I have? But, of course, those are both a very big deal, and they can bring the Nervous and the Scared.

So what will I think about when they hit me? The way new babies smell. Their sleepy smiles and their tight grip around your finger. Long hugs from Smarty Pants. The warmth of San Diego sunshine on my face. Fresh guacamole and salsa from my favorite Mexican restaurant. The decadent hot chocolate the cafe next door sells. The joy of discovering a new author I love. The way my abs ache from laughing when I’m with my friends.

What do you think of when the Nervous and the Scared attack you?

By Kat

Kat Latham writes sexy contemporary romance, including the London Legends rugby series. With degrees in English lit and human rights, she loves stories that reflect the depth, humor and emotion of real life. She's a California girl living in the Netherlands with her baby girl and British husband.

1 comment

  1. Hi Kat! I loved the video and it testifies to how soft hearted I am when a kid can make you cry with a made up story. When I am scared I turn to God and His promises. I know I can trust him to get me through whatever I am facing and I think of my family too. I have an awesome family! Thanks for this post. It was a real eye opener.

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